We are responsible for the way we feel. If somebody does something we don’t like and we feel angry, sad, discouraged, etc. it is because of some belief that we have, not because of what the other person does. When we take responsibility for your feelings, we are in the driver’s seat of our lives.
Often, people or circumstances in our lives aren’t the way we want them, but blaming the people or circumstances (the stimulus) doesn’t rectify the situation and we feel bad. We can decide to feel comfortable, and decide what we want to do in the situation and make that decision with much more clarity when we aren’t stuck in uncomfortable feelings.
We can’t hurt anyone else’s feelings and they can’t hurt ours. It is only our beliefs that create uncomfortable feelings – every time.