From page 57 of Kathy Said, You’re Not Lost to Me
Kathy said:
It wasn’t your parents’ anger that was dangerous. It was their behavior when they were angry that you were afraid of.
Today I know anger is a feeling, not a behavior. Yelling, hitting, and slapping are behaviors, not feelings.
Kathy said:
Your anger is not dangerous to yourself or anyone else. Your parents’ behavior was what was dangerous to you when you were young.
Kathy said:
It wasn’t your parents’ anger that was dangerous. It was their behavior when they were angry that you were afraid of.
Today I know anger is a feeling, not a behavior. Yelling, hitting, and slapping are behaviors, not feelings.
Kathy said:
Your anger is not dangerous to yourself or anyone else. Your parents’ behavior was what was dangerous to you when you were young.
